The Dangers of Riding a Personality to Success in Online Communities
Although Social Wave is far behind where I had hoped it would be at this point, I have to admit that it has enjoyed some mild success. A few emails that I got recently were indirect signs that the public perception about Social Wave's presence as a community network had grown. They came in the form of complaints that were submitted like filed grievances.
I've been through this rite of passage once before as a student leader. As an undergraduate at Boston University, it took two years of very active involvement in campus life before some people stopped addressing me as a person and started addressing me as someone who might be able to do something with their grievances. I'm older and wiser now and it looks like I've managed to halve the amount of time that some people have decided to stop addressing me as another human being.
There are other parallels between what happened to me as a student leader in 1994 and what is happening to me as the developer and founder of a growing community network dedicated to making Silicon Valley a more familiar place to live. Unfortunately, it's also an unpleasant one. As a student leader, around the time that I stopped being a person to some people, I started losing friends. They started judging me far more critically than they had judged me when I was unknown, mostly harmless, and amusing in my drive. I stop getting away with having personal faults.
I'll need a team of psychologists to understand why I've had to go through the problem of friends becoming hypercritical and unforgiving once my work has begun to succeed, but my intent with this entry isn't to talk about me. It's to point out an unusual issue that probably faces almost any project that's powered by a personality.
The precursor to the Social Wave program was 100% me and when I started to convert that program into today's Social Wave, I made myself as anonymous as possible on the site. After three months of distancing myself from my creation, Social Wave was a mess. Nobody showed to events and nobody visited the website.
After I got some feedback from people who said they liked it better when I acted a "lot less corporate" in how I managed the site, I started putting my name on things again and engaged with people on the site as myself and not some anonymous admin. Things turned around, but now the problem is the opposite. To some people I am now synonymous with Social Wave and any personal judgement they make against me is automatically being applied to Social Wave.
In success as well as in failure, you find out who your friends are. I have no problem with these difficult revelations, but for the sake of my work, I'd rather be able to keep my illusions of camaderie intact until Social Wave has one or two more prominent personalities who can share the spotlight.
The lesson learned here is to make every effort possible to weave at least two or three high profile personalities into a community site while the site is still flying under the radar. This is generally accepted as no-brainer kind of advice under the rationale that you need some engaging people to "seed" the activity while things are slow, but I'm pointing out that having more people in the main spotlight is even more important when the site is succeeding. One person can make a site interesting without help if that person is driven enough, but one person alone cannot prevent perceptions about him from being translated into a general spite for the entire community.